Entering into a relationship with someone that you plan to spend the rest of your life with is a beautiful thing. It’s also a very serious thing, and one that requires a lot of planning, discussion, compromise, understanding, and time to talk things through with your significant other. All of this is necessary before you consider taking steps to plan your wedding.
The average couple take 13 to 18 months to plan their wedding. But how long are people taking to plan their marriage?
That’s a statistic that is not as easy to find. According to a survey completed by Canstar, the average cost of an Australian wedding is as high as $65,482. We sure are spending a lot of money for the ‘big day’.
However, in Australia, the average length of a marriage is currently standing at 12.1 years, and 1 in 3 marriages are likely to end in divorce.
There are a lot of things to discuss with your partner before you are married. Without taking the time to discuss these things, you may find that when they are eventually discovered – and they will be – they might not be something either of you are prepared to live with.
This takes time, and deep conversation to navigate and overcome, and it saves you a LOT of time – and money – to have these conversations up front.
One of my dearest friends met her husband in 2004 when they were both 17 years old. They were engaged at 18, married before they turned 19, had two kids by the age of 22, and have been happily married ever since.
She tells me that she didn’t know about any of the elements that we will explore in the following posts at the time. For her, these lessons have been learned by life, and sometimes, the hard way.
It is for this reason that I wanted to take the time to share her story (with her permission) in this series of articles over the coming weeks. I want to pass on the lessons she has learned in order to save others the time, and sometimes the heartache, of learning the hard way.
In the following articles, we will explore the nine essential elements of a strengths based relationship. These are critical to understand before you dip your toe in the pool of planning your wedding day.